December 12, 2020

Your Gift To Yourself: A Guide to Holiday Self Care

How to Take Care Of Yourself During The Holidays


Part of our healing process is learning self care and self love.

Many of us have been conditioned from childhood to prioritise the needs of others over our own and to feel guilty when we put our needs first.

So part of our healing journey is learning how to care for ourselves and how to say 'yes' to ourselves. And, 'no' to others. This holds particularly true during the holidays.

Yes, while the sounds of cheerful Christmas music and the glistening lights make it seem like the “most wonderful time of the year,” it can also be one of the most stressful and difficult times of the year, this year in particular. 

Here are 8 self-care tips to ensure you make yourself a priority this holiday season.   

1. Set Boundaries  

This time of year, it’s easy to get carried away with holiday plans and expectations, but it’s just as critical to schedule downtime, too. If you aren’t excited about saying YES to something, say NO. Or, create boundaries around how much time and energy you’ll put into your holiday to-dos. Know what you truly need and gift it to yourself.

2. Schedule Time For Yourself 

The holidays can be a chaotic time which can lead to burn out easily (especially during times of healing). Add in the logistical challenges of 2020 and it’s easy to get overwhelmed. Set aside time in your calendar that’s just for you. You can fill your “me time” with whatever nourishes you. Do some relaxation breaths, read a book, get creative, meditate, listen to music, journal, light a candle or burn some essential oils. Gift yourself anything that makes you happy.  

3. Make Movement A Priority 

Don’t stop caring for your body because it’s the holidays. Don’t wait for the New Year to make yourself a priority. It is important to care for your physical self all year round. If you’re already stressed, eliminating exercise will have a negative impact on your well-being. Schedule time for movement each day, even if you only have 10 minutes.  Whether a brief YouTube Yoga session a full on dance party to Christmas Music, your body will thank yourself for this gift.

4. Tune Into Your Emotions 

Healing at this time of year can be quite challenging. I can most certainly mean mixed emotions. Call “time-outs” for yourself and check-in on your feelings. Taking time to tune into how you’re feeling around the holidays can help you understand what you and your inner child may need. You can write down your feelings in a journal to keep track of when and what triggered these emotions to later discuss them with a professional caretaker or therapist. You can also visit the Jen Peters YouTube channel for a variety of guided meditations that can help ease the pain beneath the intense emotions inherent in healing.

5. Stay Present 

It’s not uncommon to get so caught up in the planning of the holidays that we completely forget to enjoy ourselves. While you worry about whether the holidays are fulfilling everyone’s expectations, you miss the sweet moments that can make the holidays magical. Find the moments where you feel good and cherish them. Embrace these traditions or create new ones. That is the real gift of the season.

6. Adjust Your Expectations 

The holidays can be especially difficult due to the expectations that it has to fit a picture-perfect illusion. We are pressured to spend the holidays like what we see in the movies or on social media. Understand there is no true “ideal.” Everybody is different, hailing from different backgrounds. Throw your expectations out the window and honor yourself.

7. Remember to Practice Gratitude 

Asking yourself what you’re grateful for helps increase dopamine and serotonin, creating more positive pathways in your brain. During the time of year that’s so focused on receiving, gratitude helps make you realize what you already have and it raises your vibration. A gift indeed.

8. Tap Into Your Inner Child 

When we get older the holidays lose a lot of its whimsy. Instead? Pressure. Put down your to-do list and carve out some time to be a kid again. Break out the Christmas karaoke, eat your favorite treats, gift your Inner Child whatever feels magical to you both this time of year.  


We know the holidays can be a challenging time, these self care tips are offered to you with love and healing. 

If you’re looking for additional support, please visit the Jen Peters YouTube Channel for a variety of free guided healings designed to tap into the root cause beneath your hurting so you may absolve that pain. In addition, check out the Jen Peters Dissolving Codependency Course now being offered at 40% off with promo code SELFLOVE. Finally, check out the Jen Peters website for content of healing, informative guidance, free resources, and an invitation to receive a free Guided Healing to Meet Your Inner Child.

Wishing you all love, peace, a joyful holiday season, and a New Year filled with healing.